I stand by this: sweet and nice are the two worst adjectives one can use to describe someone.
Men tell me that I’m sweet all of the time. In the drinking game that is my life, one would take a shot each time a man tells me I’m sweet. “I don’t want to see you anymore, but you’re so sweet!” “You’re not hot enough for me to show off to all of my friends, but you’re such a sweet person!” I have been called sweet by FIVE men since April. FIVE! Not one of those men called me after they dropped the S-bomb.
Listen, assholes. It’s ok if you don’t want to see me again. That is cool with me. Honestly, I probably didn’t really like you all that much either. I wasn’t trying to get you to put a ring on it. I was probably trying to have consistent sex with you and a few dinners thrown in. Hell, you didn’t even have to take me out to dinner. I’m ok with a granola bar. If you have a dog it’s possible that I just wanted to hangout with your dog. If you don’t want to see me again then say so! I am a mostly grown ass woman (thanks for the support checks, mom and dad) and I can handle a little rejection. What I do not appreciate is you telling me that I’m a sweet girl, hugging me and telling me that you’ll contact me.
If a man ever tells you that you are sweet or nice, remember this:
Sweet: “You’re a really good person but I’m an asshole and I don’t want to date you. You’re too fragile. You care too much. I want you to meet my grandma but I have no desire to see you again.”
Nice: This is bad because it means there is literally nothing else they can use to describe you. If you spend time with someone and they tell you that they think you’re a nice person, you should walk the other way.
Important Note:
I feel EXACTLY the same about the terms ‘interesting’ and ‘fascinating.’
As in…
Oh, jesus, I asked you out because I thought you’d be some dumb stereotype I could bag on the first night but fucking hell you’re really smart and goddamn jesus h. I don’t know what the fuck else to say and this pause is getting awkward… [sips drink, adjusts scrotum under table] Wow, yeah I’m definitely not gonna call you again girl, but you still down to fuck for a few hours back at my place??
- M,
who is very seldom asked on second dates.
(Source: seejadeblog)
10 months ago